My husband and I have taken a bit of a break. I hate doing this to him because I know it's hurting him, but he needs to know that what he has done to me is unacceptable. the beginning of February, he told me to pack my things and go stay with my best friend while he 'thought things through'. This was because while out with the girls, I had forgotten to put my ring back on and there was a picture taken showing that. She (his friend) called him and told him I wasn't wearing my ring the whole time we were out, and that thanks to me, she didn't have to buy a single drink because guys were buying them for us due to me flirting. If he had stopped for a second and thought about it, he would have known that not only is that not behaviour typical of me, but that the ring thing was probably a mistake. he didn't ask me, just told me to get out. I have been harbouring anger and resentment about this ever since it happened. He took what she said and threw me out of my home without even talking to me first.
Because of this, he told me he would never talk to her again. Not once did I ever ask him to stop talking to her; he made that decision on his own. Imagine my surprise then when I find out that not only is he still talking to her, he broke her and her boyfriend up by sending her boyfriend pictures of her from our night out. Pictures that I had originally shown him to prove that she was the one causing so much trouble while we were out. Shameful that I had to prove myself to my own husband. It should be my word that he takes as gospel, not hers. Yet time and again I find myself having to fight and prove that I'm in the right.
I called a time out. I need to decide whether or not to continue this marriage based on how he has treated me. There is obviously so much more that I'm not saying but based on what I've been through I need to figure it out on my own. He needs to understand that I am his wife, and if he's going to side with another woman who has designs on him and has told me that, he might as well be with her and not me. Because I refuse to be second.
